YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS DON’T EQUAL YOUR WORTH.
Therapy for Perfectionism Online in San Diego and Across California
You’re constantly chasing the next goal, hoping this will finally feel like enough.
You’re always striving, but never arriving.
Everyone sees you as capable, put-together, and successful, but inside, you feel like you’re constantly falling short. You’re proud of how hard you work, yet no matter what you accomplish, it never feels like enough.
You live with an invisible pressure to get everything right. You double-check, overthink, and hold yourself to impossible standards, not because you want to, but because it feels like the only way to stay safe, worthy, or in control.
I’m here for you.
Therapy for perfectionism can help you finally exhale, to know you are worthy even when you’re not performing or achieving.
Together, we’ll create space for you to soften the pressure and reconnect with who you are underneath all the striving. You’ll learn how to be kind to yourself, to rest without guilt, and to see your worth as something unshakable, not something that depends on doing more.Through EMDR and Brainspotting, we’ll uncover the roots of your perfectionism and gently reprocess the beliefs that keep you stuck in fear and self-criticism.
Feel familiar?
You struggle with imposter syndrome and fear being “found out.”
You’re hyperaware of your flaws and quick to spot your own mistakes.
You depend on achievement to feel okay about yourself, but the relief never lasts.
You feel anxious when things are out of your control.
you don’t have to keep proving your worth.
Therapy for perfectionism can help you finally step off the hamster wheel of never feeling good enough and learn to rest in your own worth.
Together, we’ll explore where your drive to achieve and perform began, and the fears that keep you striving for control. You’ll start to see that perfectionism wasn’t a flaw, it was a form of protection. As we uncover those old patterns, you’ll learn to separate who you are from what you do, creating space for a kinder, more authentic relationship with yourself.
Over time, you’ll build a sense of confidence that isn’t dependent on constant accomplishment. You’ll begin to trust yourself, even when things don’t go perfectly. This new steadiness allows you to show up with more ease, compassion, and calm, grounded in the knowing that you’ve always been enough.
When all is said and done, here’s the thing:
Healing isn’t about trying harder, it’s about learning to feel safe enough to let go.
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
01 you can make mistakes without spiraling.
You see your imperfections as part of being human, not evidence of failure.
02 you feel good enough, exactly as you are.
You no longer need to prove your worth, you can finally breathe and just be.
03 you love and trust yourself, even when things don’t go as planned.
You move through life with more peace, more presence, and more self-compassion.
HEALING DOESN’T MEAN GIVING UP YOUR DRIVE.
It means learning to lead with gentleness instead of fear.
Questions?
FAQs
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Not at all. Therapy isn’t about taking away your ambition, it’s about helping you find balance. You’ll still care deeply about what matters to you, but you’ll be able to pursue it with more calm, confidence, and joy instead of pressure or fear.
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Our work together will focus on understanding where your perfectionism began and how it’s been protecting you. Using EMDR, Brainspotting, and Flash Technique we’ll gently reprocess the old beliefs that keep you feeling like you’re never enough. You’ll begin to feel safer in imperfection and more comfortable being fully yourself.
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That’s completely okay, most people who struggle with perfectionism feel the same way. Therapy isn’t about forcing you to let go; it’s about helping your nervous system feel safe enough to let go. Bit by bit, you’ll learn that you can still feel secure, even when things aren’t perfect.